Temper has a short time, but If you cannot win over that, It could ruin your life. Keeping yourself as cool as temperature in Mahabaleshwar help you keep more functional.
That day was unfortunate, it was started in silence, I woke up in the early coldest morning of the week. I went to office by bicycle on that foggy day. If something strange happens, it follows the entire day like that. I go to the office by bicycle only, except when I have a fast, I prefer a motorbike for that day. Therefore, I could call that day badly sad. My wife did not wake up from the bed as there was a small fight over the last night. I was damn sure about her next morning routine change.
Is that an ugly fact? Is it happening to you as well? Generally, couples sleep apart on the bed facing their back to each others. However, we try a lot to get into sleep but always fail, and it is a problem of both. Many times we never fall asleep easily for almost one to two hours. Our brain keeps running behind the random what was right and wrong between us. It keeps running wild thoughts in our head on the bed. I call it late night game on the fight day. Sometimes pulling blanket from each other, one do it who regrets, thus teasing sometimes helps over the fight. Eventually, it ends into laughter. Furthermore, we meet, and a hug again brings us closer.
However, looking at last fight, there was less chance. It was too ugly like a Cold War and we both were sad, it was my wife’s fault or not I was not confident. After working in the office with my silent behaviours, my close friend could easily find sad look behind my smile, how much unhappy I was. Occasionally, in the front of management, I have to keep all the worries and problems besides and focus on the allocated work. I quickly remind the temperature of mahabaleshwar and our romantic memories of the last year visit.
However, I was surprised at home, you won’t believe. After my shift ends, I went home. I thought that I will work late evening and then go home. But I couldn’t resist that thought, you may say that I was missing my home. I reached home as per my regular schedule. I as soon as I entered and heard my wife from the kitchen.
Furthermore, I thought She must have been cooking food, thinking my husband must be hungry. It brought a smile to my face. But after parking my bicycle in the hall, I brought my face back to a silent look.
It was for the first time, without telling her, she placed a potful of water on the induction Electric stove) for boiling. I usually get a bath at around 4-5 pm when I return home. When I ride the bicycle. So, I bath twice in a day in winter. While, she went into the washroom across the hall, however, we did not look into each other’s eyes, just blindly ignored.
Further, upon experiencing this, I felt terrible again and subsequently, she left into the kitchen. She was still cooking food. I switched on TV and fan, thinking water gets boiling until the time I should watch Television. There was a quiet silence across the house. As the TV suddenly started bouncing its sound on the walls and ears, my daughter came near me and said, BABA (A famous common name used in Maharashtra for calling fathers). Looking at her face, I wore my smile back and the happy face returned, thinking what she did wrong?
I was still confused that we will talk today or not. My wife crossed me taking warmed water into the bathroom even this time without even a glance at me and emptied it into the bucket for the bath. I went in and while in the bath, my daughter came inside and started playing with me. She loves having a bath, even if it is more than five times a day. As her mother heard, she came and took her to the kitchen. At that time also we did not speak a word and not even for a single second we look into each other’s eyes. I thought that I will not speak even today and will sleep same the way as we did yesterday. While bath, I was thinking that I will not eat and will go to sleep without having food. The memories had had recalled in the office of my temperature in mahabaleshwar faded away. As all know, Mahabaleshwar is well-known for its cold air.
I came back to the hall wearing my night cloths and sat at the same place I was watching TV, I quickly got surprised.
The surprise was unexpected and for the moment when I entered the house I never thought it will happen. My wife walked into the hall with a Thali (diner) in her hand. It was freshly cooked food. However, I felt so loving, specially when she had a broad smile looking into my eyes. Thali has extra food, as you can say, it was my favourite food, two curries, cumin-rice and Ghee flavoured cooked lentils.
Therefore, looking at her my smile was slowly gearing up and was responding cooperatively and thus, within no time we both turned into a laugher. As well as, she sat beside me with a surrendering look. I can say, it was the longest laugh of the day. Then she hugged me and gave me a kiss and I returned the same. The feelings that evoked in me were different. A tear of love appeared quickly on my cheek. It happens only for your loved one. It happened for the first time in life that a smile can be a witness to a big fight. Within a second, the hateful face turned into a loving one.
“It was a clear-cut example that love only add love and hate only contribute hate”
In hate, if you add some love it becomes completely Love and If you add hate in Love, then it becomes hate. So hate gives hate and love gives love, as simple as it is.
One thing I learned when someone smiles, it does not matter how sad you are, you give definitely a smile back and that’s the nature’s law. If my wife thought not to smile and give me food. I could have enjoyed on my own without happiness, but a smile brought the happiness on my face. Thus, that smile gave me a lesson. When anybody you found is sad or angry, then you should start with a smile. If it happens with your spouse, then this is the best thing to start.
This will help you stop fighting and spread the love more…
